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The Path to Accountability: A Dialogue on Recovery

April 2, 2026March 9, 2026 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Jetsunma: Student 1, if you can’t do the program, you will remain seriously mentally ill. The consequence is your mind will continue to get worse and worse and you will end up losing your job, possibly not too far from now. You have to face the fact that you are mentally disabled, severely mentally ill, it ain’t pretty and we all watch it. I know you won’t listen to me, you never do. Do you want me to find a man to say this to you? Because that’s easy. Anyone with eyes can say that to you. You have to get a hold of your mind! Or your old age won’t be pretty.

Student 1: I understand Rinpoche. I am renewing my commitment to ACA going to a meeting tonight and planning to do a meeting a day for at least 30 days. I will continue with “A New Hope” and can start “The Loving Parent Guidebook”… or any method you think is appropriate. Other things that helped me before were consistency in daily Ngondro practice, making sure I eat (heartily) on time, going to bed on time, staying off social media. Not being involved with any activity outside of KPC for a while, as Student 2 told me you instructed.

Jetsunma: The truth is you will not do any of the things you’re promising to do. You’re just talking talking talking with no mind or heart behind any of it. You are not going to do the program, you’re not doing it well, you won’t accomplish anything. Keep listening to your parents. Look what that’s done for you. You’re leaving for sure. It’s just a matter of time.

Student 2: Student 1, do you realize that you did not commit to doing the program until you were firm in your recovery? You’re creating a box to check, rather than embracing the transformation that is being asked of you. You use all the business as an excuse to not really confront your real problems.

Student 1: There is something going on with Raja. Multiple times today when I’ve checked on them, he has been near the top of the water opening and closing his mouth. It could possibly be a sign of gill flukes.

Jetsunma: Sounds like you’re freaking out and trying to make yourself useful. Use that energy to heal yourself. Student 1 you are sick, and you are getting sicker. I know your whole family is like that so you can’t see it. But you have to get a hold of your mind. You so desperately desperately need attention you’ll do what ever it takes, even if it is for us to criticize you. Your poor sick hungry ghost. Pull yourself together or leave.

Student 1: I’m very sorry Rinpoche. I definitely see the sickness and the relapse. I know I’m not coming from the heart. I do see more of my patterns in this. I realize I have continued to do harm in the process and have lost ground in recovery. I have a lot of regret and I am very sorry to you all, to all the fish, and all other sentient beings who have hopes of us. I know you have no reason to trust me but I will keep trying.

Jetsunma: I wish you would tell me that you could defend yourself from this sickness, that you will be stalwart and fight it. But the pull of your family is so strong, I really wish you could get to a place where you were not asking them for help. I wish you were committed to a course like that, rather than just spinning. An all embracing plan where you can abandon the sick way of living you have. That’s what I wish you would tell me. Why? Because I care about you. You’re pushing it pretty thin, but I care about you.

Student 1: I wish that I could tell you that too Rinpoche, and I hope to tell you that in the future, hopefully sooner rather than later. I think that’s actually what my mental and emotional relapse is about, holding that separation in my mind and then regressing because I’m afraid. I would also like to see myself communicating with you more honestly, openly, and from the heart.

Jetsunma: You know you can’t get to your heart until you let your parents go. Your father really. Your father has control of you still. I’m sorry your mother was such a numbnuts.
Thank you Student 1, that’s the first real thing I’ve heard come out of your mouth in a long time. Student 1, will you now feed them twice a day as I asked you to do. You can see how hungry they are.

A Mother’s Love

March 1, 2026 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

Her Eminence Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche recently shared with the sangha the prayers she recites each night before bed. Among the many expressions of gratitude, one student’s response gave rise to the conversation below, which Rinpoche has asked to be shared publicly so everyone may benefit from this teaching. Names have been made anonymous for privacy.

Student 1: Thank you, Jetsunma, this is much appreciated. Mom [Student 2] does something like this. She has a list of mantras that Student 3 compiled.

Rinpoche’s attendant: Student 1, are you actually comparing this teaching from Jetsunma to a list that Student 3 compiled?

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: If Student 2 wants to practice Student 3’s Dharma she will end up with Student 3’s mind. It blows me away after all these years you haven’t.

Student 2 certainly does her own thing.

The dysfunctional are leading the dysfunctional and the blind are leading the blind.

Student 3, since when did you become a teacher?

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 2, stop doing the bullshit prayers that Student 3 sent you and do what I said. I am the teacher here, not Student 3. What in the world are you thinking? Student 2, you’ve been doing that bullshit stuff since the beginning. It took effort to get you off the Shower of Blessings and do some real practice.

You need medication and therapy. But you won’t do it. You don’t do anything I tell you to.

So just keep doing blah blah blah or whatever you do, and ignore my prayers. I won’t offer you anymore support and advice or teaching.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 3, who are you to compile and distribute practices for others without the discrimination to know how sick the others are, or the wisdom to present to the students what they need?

Rinpoche’s attendant: Do you all realize you appear unable to discriminate the difference between Dharma and ordinary activity? Practice is not merely a collection of words on a page. There is a reason Dharma is passed from teacher to student, and not just circulated like self help books.

Student 2: Dear Jetsunma,

Student 1 is referring to a list handed out many years ago by the sangha (I do not know who). The list was of what empowerments we were given and what the samaya was on each of the mantras associated with the empowerment.

You are my Teacher and I am totally helpless without You!

Thank You for this beautiful teaching. I am doing this teaching at night and I thank You so very, very much.

Student 3: I am most definitely not a teacher of Dharma, Jetsunma. And I have no idea to what Student 1 is referring, as it had to have been a very long time ago.

I haven’t compiled anything that I can recall since the book I made for myself that was requested for those who travelled to India.

What I have done recently is print KPC’s practices (like Sojong, Chimed Sog Thik, Ratna Lingpa Vajrakilaya, what we’ve been doing in group practice) for three or four of your students who asked if I could print a hard copy for them bc they couldn’t.

May I always remain your student, developing good qualities and virtue, wisdom and discrimination, so that in some future lifetime I may become a qualified teacher worthy of your respect.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 1 portrayed it differently but Student 1 perceives differently. I’m sorry to have bothered you, Student 3.

Student 3: I am grateful for the teaching, Jetsunma. Your blessings come in many forms, in a myriad of ways. Thank you.

Student 1: I’m so sorry, both to you, Jetsunma, and to Student 3, and mom. It’s an old, old list from way back when. I thought Student 3 compiled it, but I must be wrong. I was just happy that mom recites mantra to keep samaya every day. I’ve no doubt she’s doing the mantra you’ve said here now.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: You had better check. I think you’re in crisis Student 1. You’re in bad shape anyway. Do you need your meds upped? You’re spinning.

Student 1: I will check. I just started nearly my full workload at my job without decreasing what I’ve promised to do at the temple. It’s going to take a couple weeks to get a stable schedule, and a regular schedule with the meds. Last week was rough for the chopins and I was also prayer chart caretaker at the same time. I’ll need a couple weeks with the new schedule to get used to it.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: What are temple duties?

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: I knew it. Clearly it’s your meds are off. Can’t you manage it? Do you need a case manager? I mean, we can provide one. Really Student 1, you’ve been through this for years. you know Student 1 if your meds are off you are in danger. First of all you become recalcitrant, then you become an asshole, then your moral conduct is lost, and fourth you don’t even recognize your teacher.

Who are you receiving therapy from? You’re thinking sounds really squirrely again.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 1, how old are you now?

Student 1: Last week I did all the tormas for Losar. Prayer chart caretaker. Prayer shifts. Cleaning. Eggs, though I’m behind on that. If I take myself off the tsa lung team we won’t have enough people, so I’m going to try to do it in less time. It’s manageable, I just have to get back on a schedule.

I fell asleep last night before I had my evening meds.

I’m 58. My therapist is [name redacted].

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: You don’t need to do tsa lung. Take yourself off that.

Wow you’re almost 60 huh? Not a little girl anymore. Why do you still act like one? And you still can’t manage your affairs? Why is that, Student 1? Can you manage your meds, because if not I could put someone on it. I was hoping by now you would be better enough to see to yourself. But, I will take care of you if that’s what you need.

How often do you go to therapy?

Student 1: I go to therapy every Wednesday morning. And no, definitely not a little girl anymore.

If I come off the tsa lung team, the team won’t have enough people. Already too much is on Student 4’s shoulders. One of the team members is injured, and another just had a sharp increase in responsibilities.

People manage with much more than I’m doing. It’s just a new schedule, a lot of change, and we’ve had Losar, two weather events… all within the last few weeks when I’ve started my job.

Rinpoche’s attendant: Her Eminence has taken you off the Tsa Lung team for your own good.

Student 1: Please give me a couple weeks to get on a schedule with everything. If I can’t manage, then maybe tsa lung has to come off. I don’t need to do it, but someone does. People at the temple do a lot more than I do.

I’m actually doing better. Last week I was in much worse shape.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 5, don’t let Student 4 carry everything. Other people need to get involved.

If Student 4 wants to help she can call on the people who have had tsa lung from New York and invite them to come and practice.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Maybe Student 6 and Student 7 can call and ask people to help (with tsa lung)

Student 1: Thank you, Jetsunma. The team’s too small and Student 4 needs help with it.

Student 5: Yes Jetsunma. I’ll talk to Student 4 to get the background and get others to help.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 1, you do what I say – period. Everyone will do what I say, not what Student 1 says. Do you understand that?

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 1, you can stop playing the control games now. You saw where it got Student 8, if you’re still taking in information.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: I also want Student 1 off the Chopin team until she gets her shit together, gets back on her meds properly, and does what I tell her to do. She is no longer a princess here. Or anywhere really if you look at her ragged life.

I’m trying to help her tame her mind but she is like a wild crazed horse, which I am unwilling to ride. That’s up to her to do.

Student 1: Okay, Jetsunma.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Student 1, what I want you to do is work the program, if you can negotiate your way through to the program. Get your medicines fixed. And get your therapy more frequently.

Student 1: Yes, Jetsunma, I’ll make that my priority.

Jetsunma Ahkön Lhamo Rinpoche: Good

They’re Alive!

March 1, 2026February 11, 2026 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

This is a shot of the koi, in torpor, under the ice. This is under the ice. Jacob took this and I think he did a great job. It shows the majesty that they still have in the winter. So peaceful, energized by each other only. Not eating at all. I guess it’s a time of retreat for them, although half their brains are asleep. They barely function metabolically.
Our job is to keep them safe and comfortable and we’re working very hard at it.
Don’t forget them when you make a donation.

Bodhichitta: From “Enlightened Courage” Commentary by Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

December 22, 2018 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The following is respectfully quoted from “Enlightened Courage” a commentary by Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche:

Bodhichitta is the unfailing method for attaining enlightenment. It has two aspects, relative and absolute. Relative bodhichitta is practiced using ordinary mental processes and is comparatively easy to develop. Nevertheless, the benefits that flow from it are immeasurable, for a mind in which the precious Bodhichitta has been born will never again fall into the lower realms of samsara. Finally, all the qualities of the Mahayana path, as teeming and vast as the ocean, are distilled and essentialized in Bodhichitta, the mind of enlightenment.

We must prepare ourselves for this practice by following the instructions in the sadhana of Chenrezig, “Take refuge in the Three Jewels and meditate on Bodhichitta. Consider that all your virtuous acts of body, speech, and mind are for the whole multitude of beings, numerous as the sky is vast.”

It is said in the teachings that “since beings are countless, the benefit of wishing them well is unlimited.” And how many beings there are! Just imagine, in one small garden there might be millions and millions of them! If we wish to establish them all in the enlightened state of Buddhahood, it is said that the benefit of such an aspiration is as vast as the number of begins is great. Therefore we should not restrict our Bodhichitta to a limited number of beings. Wherever there is space, beings exist, and all of them live in suffering. Why make distinctions between them, welcoming some as loving friends and excluding others as hostile enemies?

Throughout the stream of our lives, from time without beginning until the present, we have all been wandering in samsara, accumulating evil. When we die, where else is there for us to go but to the lower realms? But if the wish and thought occur to us that we must bring all beings to enlightened state of Buddhahood, we have generated what is known as Bodhichitta in intention. We should then pray to the teacher and the yidam deities that the practice of the precious Bodhichitta might take root in our hearts. We should recite the seven-branch prayer from the Prayer of Perfect Action, and, sitting upright, count our breaths twenty-one times without getting mixed up or missing any, and without being distracted by anything. If we are able to count our breaths concentratedly for a whole mall, discursive thoughts will diminish and the practice of relative Bodhichitta will be much easier. This is how to become a suitable vessel for meditation.

ABSOLUTE BODHICHITTA

Consider all phenomena as a dream.

If we have enemies, we tend to think of them as permanently hostile. Perhaps we have the feeling that they have been the enemies of our ancestors in the past, that they are against us now, and that they will hate our children in the future. Maybe this is what we think, but the reality is actually quite different. In fact, we do not know where or what we were in our previous existences, and so there is no certainty that the aggressive people we now have to contend with were not our parents in former lives! When we die, we have no idea where we will be reborn, and so there is no knowing that these enemies of ours might not become our mothers or fathers. At present, we might have every confidence in our parents, who are so dear to us, but when they go from this life , who is to say they will not be reborn among our enemies? Because our past and future lives are unknown to us, we have the impression that the enemies we have now are fixed in their hostility, or that our present friends will always be friendly. This only goes to show that we have never given any real thought to this question.

If we consider carefully, we might picture a situation where many people are at work on some elaborate project. At one moment, they are all friends together, feeling close, trusting and doing each other good turns. But then something happens and they become enemies, perhaps hurting or killing one other. Such things do happen, and changes like this can occur several times in the course of a single lifetime–for no other reason than that all composite things or situations are impermanent.

This precious human body, supreme instrument though it is for the attainment of enlightenment, is itself a transient phenomenon. No one knows when, or how, death will come. Bubbles form on the surface of the water, but the next instant they are gone; they do not stay. It is just the same with this precious human body we have managed to find. We take all the time in the world before engaging in practice, but who knows when this life of ours will simply cease to be? And once our precious human body is lost, our midstream, continuing its existence, will take birth perhaps among the animals, or in one of the hells or god realms where spiritual development is impossible. Even if life in a heavenly state, where all is ease and comfort, is a situation unsuitable for practice, on account of the constant dissipation and distraction that are a feature of the god’s existence.

At present, the outer universe–earth, stones, mountains, rocks, and cliffs–seem to be the perception of our senses to be permanent and stable, like the house build of reinforced concrete that we think will last for generations. In fact, there is nothing solid to it at all; it is nothing but a city of dreams.

In the past, when the Buddha was alive surrounded by multitudes of Arhats and when the teachings prospered, what buildings must their benefactors have built for them! It was all impermanent; there is nothing left to see now but an empty plain. In the same way, at the universities of Vikramashila and Nalanda, thousands of pandits spent there time instructing enormous monastic assemblies. All impermanent! Now, not even a single monk or volume of Buddha’s teachings are to be found there.

Take another example from the more recent past. Before the arrival of the Chinese Communists, how many monasteries were there in what use to be called Tibet, the Land of Snow? How many temples and monasteries were there, like those in Lhasa, at Samye and Trandruk? How many precious objects were there, representatives of the Buddha’s Body, Speech, and Mind? Now not even a statue remains. All that is left of Samye is something hardly bigger than a stupa. Everything was either looted, broken, or scattered, and all the great images were destroyed. These things have happened, and this demonstrates impermanence.

Think of all the lamas who came and lived in India, such as Gyalwa Karmapa, Lama Kalu Rinpoche, and Dudjom Rinpoche; think of all the teachings they gave and how they contributed to the preservation of the Buddha’s doctrine. All of them have passed away. We can no longer see them, and they remain only as objects of prayer and devotion. All this is because of impermanence. In the same way, we should try to think of our fathers, mothers, children and friends. When the Tibetans escaped to India, the physical conditions were too much for many of them and they died. Among my acquaintances alone, there were three or four deaths every day. That is impermanence. There is not one thing in existence that is stable and lasts.

If we have an understanding of impermanence, we will be able to practice the sacred teachings. But if we continue to think that everything will remain as it is, then we will be just like rich people still discussing their business projects on their deathbeds! Such people never talk about the next life, do they? It goes to show that an appreciation of the certainty of death has never touched their hearts. That is their mistake, their delusion.

The Basis for Practice is the Bodhicitta: Dilgo Khyentse

February 6, 2018 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The following is respectfully quoted from “Enlightened Courage” by Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche:

As a preliminary to this teaching, we must consider three things: the preciousness of being born a human being, the fact of impermanence and the problem of samsaric existence.

Human Birth

We are at the moment in possession of a precious human existence endowed with eighteen characteristics which are very difficult to obtain. If the teachings of the Buddha are practiced correctly, then it is as the saying goes:

Used well, this body is a ship to liberation,
Otherwise it is an anchor in samsara.
This body is the agent of all good and evil.

From the point of view of one who seeks enlightenment, it is far better to be a human being than to be born even in the heavens of the gods, where there is nectar to live an and all wishes are granted by the wish-fulfilling tree; where there is neither fatigue nor difficulty, neither sickness or old age. It is as humans, possessed of the eight freedoms and ten endowments, and not as gods, that every one of the thousand Buddhas of this age has attained, or will attain, enlightenment. This human existence, moreover, is not to be achieved by force or mere chance; it is the result of positive actions. And because it is rare for beings to accomplish positive actions, a precious human existence is indeed difficult to obtain. Nevertheless, we have now managed to be born into such a state; we have encountered the Buddhadharma, have entered the path and are now receiving teachings. But if we are unable to practice them, simply listening to the teachings will not in itself liberate us from samsara, and will be of no help to us when we are confronted by the hardships of birth, disease, old age and death. If we do not follow the doctor’s prescription when we are sick, then if if the doctor sits constantly by our side, the pain will not go away.

Impermanence

As we have just said, if we neglect to practice the teachings, they will be of no use to us. Moreover our lives are fragile and impermanent, and because death and its causes are uncertain, we may succumb at any moment. We may think, “Oh, I will practice when I am older, but now while I am young, I will live an ordinary life, making money, getting the better of my rivals, helping my friends and so on.’ But the fact is we might not live to be very old. Just think for example of people who were born at the same time as ourselves. Some might have died as children, some as adults, at their work and so on. Our own lives might not be very long either.

Furthermore, a human existence, in comparison with that of an animal, seems almost impossible to achieve. If you examine a clod of earth in summer, you might find more creatures in it than the population of the whole of France! That is why we say that, in terms of numbers alone, a human birth is difficult to obtain. So we should make up our minds that we will practice the Dharma instead of throwing our lives away in meaningless activities.

To use our human lives to accomplish the Buddhadharma, is like crossing the ocean in search of costly jewels and afterwards returning home with every kind of precious thing; the difficulties of the trip will have been well rewarded. It would be a shame to come back empty-handed! We are now in possession of a precious human form and have discovered the Teachings of the Buddha. Through the blessings and kindness of teachers it is now possible for us to receive, study and practice the Doctrine. But if we are preoccupied only with the worldly activities of this life: business, farming, prevailing over enemies, helping friends, hoping for an important position and so on–and we die before we have made time for spiritual practice, it would be just like coming home empty-handed from the isle of jewels. What an incredible waste! Therefore we should think to ourselves, ‘I am not going to miss my chance. While I have this precious opportunity, I will practice the Dharma.’ Of course, the best thing would be to practice for the whole of our lives; but at least we should take refuge properly, for this is the essence of the Buddhadharma and closes the door to the lower realms. It is the universal antidote that can be applied in any kind of difficulty, and to practice it is therefore most important.

Although, for the moment, you do not understand me, due to the difference of our languages, you are all aware that I am giving you some instruction. After I have gone, everything will be translated for you and perhaps you will think, ‘That Lama taught us something important; I must put it into practice.’ If you really do so, in your lives from day to day, then my explanation will have had some point to it. So please take it to heart.

The defects of samsara

The experience of happiness and suffering comes about as the result of positive and negative actions; therefore evil should be abandoned and virtue cultivated as much as possible.

Even the tiniest insect living in the grass wishes to be happy. But it does not know how to gather the causes of happiness, namely positive actions, nor how to avoid the cause of suffering, which is evil behavior. When animals kill and eat each other, they instinctively commit negative actions. They wish for happiness, but all they do is to create the causes of their misery and experience nothing but suffering. This is the measure of their ignorance and delusion. But if the truth were really shown to them, then without a care even for their lives, they would accomplish that very virtue which they would recognize as the source of their own happiness. The essence of the Buddha’s teaching is to understand clearly what behavior is to be adopted and what is to be rejected.

Abandon evil-doing,
Practice virtue well,
Subdue your mind:
This is the Buddha’s teaching.

At the moment, we are all caught in the state of delusion, and so we should acknowledge all the negative actions we have perpetrated throughout our many lives until the present time. And from now on, we should turn away from all such actions big or small, just as we would avoid getting thorns in our eyes. We should constantly be checking what we do: any negative action should be confessed immediately, and all positive actions dedicated to others. To the best of our ability, we should abandon wrongdoing and try to accumulate goodness.

Pick Your Poison

February 3, 2018 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching by Jetsunma Ahkon Norbu Lhamo on October 18, 1995

We have made many offerings to the Guru. Mostly what we have offered the Guru are five cups: five cups of poison. We have offered the Guru hatred, because there in the presence of the primordial nature, there in the presence of the display of the Bodhicitta, there in that non-dual pristine purity, we have shamelessly hated, abused, and neglected. We have committed horrible sins against others who are innocent — against motherly sentient beings — not only in this lifetime, but previously as well. And we have done this bold-faced in the presence of that which is so holy as to be indescribable.

We have offered the cup of greed and grasping. Every single day in the presence of our own mind, the face of the Guru, in the great silent sound of primordial emptiness, there in the great quiet light of the display of luminosity, right there in the place of Bodhicitta, from our mouth, we have offered the cup of greed instead of the speech of comfort. This is what we have offered to the Guru. This is the offering that we have made. Without shame we grasp. We are filled with greed. We do nothing but think about me, me, me, and “What I can have?” and “What I can do?” and “How great I am!” and “Don’t you want to give me some more approval?” “Don’t you want to give me some more?” This is what we do in the face of the Guru.

And then the third cup that we offer to the face of the Guru is our ignorance. Not only do we begin with ignorance — which is forgivable, in the sense that we are born; we wake up; at five or six years old we come to consciousness. Later on, we figure out that we’re as dumb as posts. We just don’t know. We are ignorant. We don’t have the teaching yet. But now we have come to the point where we have received the teaching. We have received enough of the teaching where you could say that while we still abide in samsara, we are moving away from ignorance. We are bringing down, or quelling, the poison of ignorance. Yet, in the face of the Guru, in the face of the primordial empty nature that is our nature, in the face of the very display of Bodhicitta, we have willfully remained ignorant. Willfully. We have not accomplished our practice. We have turned away from our practice. We have not tried very hard. We have not listened to the teachings. We have not taken the advice of our Gurus. We continue to listen to the teaching as though it was water rolling off of our back

Imagine that you had one chance to listen to Guru Rinpoche and that was the only contact with Dharma that you were ever going to have in your whole life, and Guru Rinpoche offered to give you the keys to liberation, everything that you need. What would that listening look like? Hopefully, if you are not dumber than a post, you would listen to the Guru as though it were your very breath. You would listen with your whole heart and every word would be like food, like nectar to you. You would take every bit of it home and work with it all the time. If that were the only opportunity you would ever receive and you were receiving these teachings from Guru Rinpoche, maybe you might think like that.

But in the face of our root Guru that’s not what we do. We report dutifully for class and we hear the teachings. I used to walk around and ask students, “What was the teaching about that I taught the other night?” But I stopped that because that used to break my heart, when there was no answer.

We are faulted in the way that we make offerings. We cling to our ignorance. We have heard the method, we have heard the teachings, and yet we do not practice accordingly, to the best of our abilities. And so, we have offered the cup of ignorance to our Guru. And that has been the best that we could do.

The next cup that we have offered to the Guru is jealousy. Bold faced, in the face of our very nature, in the very display of Bodhicitta we have looked at the accomplishments of others, and we have said, I can do that. We have competed and we have been jealous. We have looked to other’s belongings and we have said, “I wish I had that instead of you.” We try to make ourselves feel better, to practice self-aggrandizement, by lifting ourselves up and putting others down. These things we have done in the very face of the Guru who is indistinguishable from us and from our nature, and indistinguishable from the nature of all beings. There is only nature. It is not divided into pigeon holes. Its not like an ice-cube tray where its all divided into sections. So when we look into the face of any other sentient being, any motherly sentient being, and perform our usual ritual of jealousy and competitiveness, then this is the game that we are actually playing with the root Guru. We have, therefore in truth, been jealous and competitive toward the root Guru, because there is no distinction. And if we think that it’s okay to be that way in front of other sentient beings but not okay to be that way in front of the Guru, then we are holding up the cup of ignorance as well. By now we should know better than that. We have been taught more than that. By now we know that all sentient beings have within them the Buddha nature, the Buddha seed, and that is inseparable from the Guru’s nature. So, if we harm, or ignore, or treat badly or abuse others, this is what we have done to the Guru. We have held up the cup of jealousy.

And the last wonderful offering that we have made to the Guru is the cup of pride. In front of the Guru, that nature which is all-pervasive, fundamentally undifferentiated, free of any kind of conjecture, or contrivance, or distinction; in front of that pure display, we have held ourselves up as great, special and superior. We have held ourselves up as that which requires special attention. We have held ourselves up as that which requires approval because we are so wonderful. And we have not been ashamed, in front of the face of the Guru, to indicate that we are superior to others. We have not been ashamed to do that. Strangely, we feel shame and embarrassment at the idea of surrender in devotion, but we have no shame about showing our stinking nasty pride in front of the face of the Guru. That doesn’t bother us at all. Our thinking is completely backwards.

Now, this is not good news. We like hear good inspiring things. We like to be entertained. This is not the kind of thing that we like to hear. But you know, if you really are honest with yourself, if you really examine yourself, you know that what I am saying is true.

Taking Responsibility for Our Path

November 27, 2017 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The following is an excerpt from a teaching by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo called “Neurotic Interaction to Guru Yoga”

Today we are going to continue the process of looking at two main and fundamental foundational teachings associated with the Buddhadharma. We have examined and re-examined the Bodhicitta, which is one of the main foundational attitudes and practices and accomplishments that one should gather on the path, and now we are moving towards the Guru Yoga. There are many areas in which these two subjects connect, and one has to develop the foundational thoughts, as I’ve indicated many times before, the thoughts that turn the mind towards Dharma. Also one has to develop the thoughts that make one understand the condition of sentient beings and the failings of samsara, or the sufferings of samsara. If one were to understand these in a logical and realistic way, and go through the effort of contemplating them so that a real understanding is arrived at, and take responsibility for that, then it’s easy, or at least easier, to move into a deeper practice of the Guru Yoga, a deeper understanding of Bodhicitta, the twofold accomplishment of wisdom and knowledge. These things are much more easily arrived at when one studies the foundational teachings. So try to remember that. No matter what stage you’re at in practicing the path, one has to reorient oneself all the time. It’s similar to, let’s say, you’re forty years old and you’ve had the experience of living for forty years so you have certain things about living that you’re comfortable with, that you’re certain about. You know by this time the sun is most likely going to rise and set.

We find that if we are to continue to keep ourselves spiritually on the mark to where we feel satisfied about our spiritual practice, we find that periodically we have to reorient ourselves, and for some of us it might take different forms. Many of us have realized by now that we need a certain amount of time spent alone in contemplation. Many of us realize now that we need to reorient ourselves with nature—that one should align oneself with the cycles of life, the cycles of night and day, the cycles of the seasons, the natural directions and natural occurrences that occur in our world—and that is useful and good too.

When it comes to Dharma this is certainly the case, but the need here is more specific. Yes, you may find that you do need a certain amount of time alone. I think really that all people do. That you do need a certain amount of time out in nature and you do need a certain amount of meditation time and so forth and so on. But beyond that, particularly and specifically with Dharma, one needs to reorient oneself on the path by discovering and rediscovering again the faults of cyclic existence—the thoughts that turn the mind, the linking cause and effect conditions that we find in samsara. Turning the mind—this is something that one needs to accomplish on a regular basis. There never is a time when you are actually finished with that.

So this is something that I speak about constantly. I know that you feel that you’ve already heard this. I agree that you may have already had it meet with your ears, but the hearing part, well that’s a different story. We don’t know if that’s actually happened yet or not, because the level of personal responsibility that I’m talking about is absolutely essential.

The Brilliance of the Great Bodhicitta

November 17, 2017 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

An excerpt from a teaching called How to Pray by Being by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

As we realize that others need our help, we begin to heed their calls. We begin to turn to what is real, what is profound—the brilliance of the great bodhicitta. The great bodhicitta is the first movement from the void—from the absolute, uncontrived, undifferentiated spontaneously complete emptiness. Bodhicitta is the arising of the Buddha nature in a gossamer-thin, seemingly phenomenal, form. Bodhicitta contains all potential. It is the big “yes.” Separate from nothing, containing all potential and all accomplishment, the great bodhicitta is the first movement of the absolute. Bodhicitta is also called compassion. Compassion is our nature.

We have deprived ourselves of the deliciousness, the comfort and the happiness of compassion for so long that the bodhicitta seems like something we have to work on—like an outsider that we have to bring into our home. How sad, because compassion is our nature. When we are self-absorbed, we are denying ourselves the nectar that is the first movement of our very nature. And so if the great bodhicitta is really the first appearance of any kind of phenomena, if it is the underlying reality of any phenomenon, then compassion is also our nature. In fact, compassion is the nature of the meanest little bug in the world. It is the nature of spiders and lions and tigers and bears—and everyone else too.

All sentient beings have that nature and yet they live in a state of sleeping. We, on the other hand, are practicing to be awake. We wonder, “How do I see the bodhicitta? How do I develop the unconstricted, uncontrived, non-dramatic, undecorated view?

The Wish to Benefit All Beings

October 14, 2017 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The following is an excerpt from a teaching by His Holiness Penor Rinpoche on Meditation, reprinted her with permission from Palyul Ling International:

This is the root of all the Dharma practices: generating the Bodhicitta [loving-kindness]. If one can really generate genuine Bodhicitta within one’s mind, then it is very easy to move nearer to ultimate liberation. Bodhicitta is known as the awakening mind. The awakening mind is without partiality and equally benefits all sentient beings. If we have the thought of doing something good and beneficial only for our families and friends and then we want to create all kinds of obstacles for someone we don’t like or whom we consider to be an enemy, this is not Bodhicitta.

Generating Bodhicitta, the awakening mind, is for the purpose of benefiting all sentient beings without any exception. Even living creatures such as ants, in their ultimate nature, they also have the Buddha nature. Even cockroaches. There is no difference in the size of the form. In the teachings it says that there is no limit to space, that space is immeasurable, and similarly there is no limit of sentient beings. Their number is immeasurable. Hence we have to generate the kind of Bodhicitta that is immeasurable for all these immeasurable numbers of beings.

Motivated by Kindness

August 4, 2017 by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo

The following is an excerpt from a teaching by Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo called “Faults of Cyclic Existence”

We have been brought up to understand that we are the most powerful country in the world. And we are, of course, the most enlightened people in the world; and we are, of course, the most advanced people in the world; and we are, of course, because we have Estee Lauder, the most beautiful people in the world. We are brought up with all these different beliefs. And whether we swallow them consciously or not, subconsciously they are in there somewhere rattling around, and we have this faith in our way of life. One thing that we can do is to think of ourselves as able to help others. One thing that is very popular in our society is the idea that it is a beneficial thing and a good thing and a virtuous thing and a fulfilling thing to help others. We are always looking for fulfillment. So the idea of compassion is a way to move ourselves into a foundation for meditation and practice. In my own experience (and I don’t claim to be such an experienced teacher), but in my own experience I have found that if I go to a new place that has never heard about the Buddha’s teaching, or if I go to a place that has heard a little bit and wants to hear more, or even if I have gone to students that have studied Buddhism for some time, if I want to touch them or refresh them so that they can continue in a determined way in their practice, or have them open up to the potential of practice and be stabilized to the extent that they can begin to practice earnestly, I can always rely on the idea of compassion to do that.

Westerners are excited by the idea that they might be able to benefit others. They are aware to some extent that the rest of the world is suffering. We don’t like to think about it, but to some extent we are aware that poverty exists, and hunger and sickness. I have found that Westerners are kind people. We are kind people. We want very much to end suffering; we very much want to help others. And there are many people who will practice if they really understand that this meditation will help them bring about the end of suffering for other people, will help them be a helper to others. They will practice for that reason. But strangely they will not practice to end their own suffering. They will continue to try to manipulate the circumstances in their life, or change things around, or try this or try that; but they will not really develop a firm foundation of practice because they themselves are suffering. They are not sufficiently motivated by their own suffering. It is a strangeness in our culture. It is not found in other cultures. But we will practice to benefit others.

This group, the core group of people who have been practicing in this temple for some time, came together because the people of earth were suffering, and the group wished to maintain a 24-hour a day prayer vigil. That is a dynamic of this organization. It came about so quickly and in such a stable way because the people here were greatly moved by the suffering of sentient beings. They knew that this kind of practice—the practice that brings about the end of desire and brings about supreme enlightenment—is ultimately the way to bring about the end of all suffering. For this reason, this family, or group of people, actually came together to practice.